Update 12th April 2014
My name is Jeffrey Bottoms and I've taken over the site. One of the things I am working on is the posting of videos about people 'Living with Aspergers'. I'm deeply disturbed by the commonly held notion that there should be a "cure" or even the idea that Autism is actually a bad thing. Autism and especially HFA are a "gift" and a skill set that cannot be learned or taught. There are movements in the working world that recognize this and I'd to give a 'tip 'o the hat' to the German accounting software firm SAP. The move started in Ireland and is expanding worldwide
Article URL: http://online.wsj.com/news/articles/SB10001424052702304418404579465561364868556
This is particularly exciting to me as I personally have had difficulties in the working world with the sole exception of my time working as a temp for both IBM and HP. I was hired because of my autism, not in spite of it. I have a tendency to hyper-focus and my obsession with accuracy and uniformity is a huge asset in the programming world. I'll eventually move this to an article on the site but for now it is in a place where it will command the attention it deserves!
Update 21st March 2014.
I have managed to find someone else to take over the website. The new person responsible for this website will be Jeff from America. He is Aspergers. I think he is a bit older than myself. He will be officially taking over the domain name from May when the current subscription ends. I didn't want to step down. I have to for personal reasons. It has become unsafe for me to live my life in any kind of public capacity. This has not been an easy straight forward decision for me. I have far too much things to cope with in my personal life right now. I will always care about some people I met through the website etc. I may not have always showed it because I have been through a lot during the time I have been running this place. I put a lot of work into what I used to do in the Aspergers Awareness related things around this website. I wouldn't quit the website if I had any other choice.
I want a chance to be a Mum, therefore I need a private life to protect my family from any further attacks by malicious online reporters. I never appreciated what I had when my son was first born. I am close to losing him mostly because of my past (publically I have never hid that past) and the malicious reports that I later found out got us put on a pre birth plan. It's true that you never know what you have until you lose it. I felt something I couldn't explain when I had my son. I felt complete for the first time in my life, finally at peace. Nothing that I had previously been through that wasn't pleasant didn't matter when I looked into his eyes for the first time. I would give anything to stop his adoption. This is why I had to make this decision. It shows that I am seriously willing to do ANYTHING to get my son back from the brink of adoption. I've never been a Mum before. I didn't want children when I was younger. I can honestly say that it has changed me so much. I have so much more empathy and for the first time in my life I felt love when my son was born. It was the best feeling I had felt in my life. Then when he was taken because I stupidly decided to argue with a friend of mine and didn't think about what I was saying, a piece of me was ripped away. I have been through hell and back. But, really I have no choice to carry on every day because the people who did this to me don't care as all they wanted was to get my baby through the system for money using any excuse.
I would like to give advice out to any teenagers and young people with this condition. I was very head strong when I was younger. I never wanted to listen to anyone older than me as 'they were wrong'. I did a lot of stuff that is still bought up now by services which was stupid. I have spoken about some of them on here. Those people you think are 'wrong' and 'don't know what their talking about' actually do know what their talking about. I don't want any of you to go down the same road as I did. I can promise you that It was very painful and no one should have to go through what I have been through. The lasting effects are just as painful. I still suffer even though most of the stupid things I did was when I was younger. You may not see how the present can affect your future right now, but I promise you that doing stupid things that result in getting a criminal record really limits your career options when you do want to do things in the future. If someone had told me this when I was younger then I would have ignored them. I know what it's like to be young and how listening is not a strong point at that age. I can assure you that you're not young forever. Time goes so quickly. It is very important that you have a plan for your adult life and don't mess up your future opportunities as you're an adult much longer than you are a young person. I started this website when I was 17 just after being diagnosed. I am 27 this year. That is just an example of how quickly time passes. It has been 4 years since my Dad passed away. That only seems like it was yesterday. I had my son 2 years ago next month which has gone quickly and I haven't seen him since June because the contact was cut when he was placed. Every day I don't see him is emotionally painful, but I hope that every day that passes is a day closer to seeing him again even if that isn't till he's 16 - 18 years old if I don't manage to stop his adoption.
I wish you all well. I'm handing over to Jeff now. Good luck all x (((hugs))) x
Former Site Manager
Previous update ...
I am sorry that I have to announce this news. A.S.S.G.O has been open since 2004. The website got many visitors back then. It also got a lot of emails daily from people with Aspergers Syndrome and their families. I am stepping down from all the Aspergers Syndrome stuff for personal reasons. I have had nothing but bad luck since I started this website. I got a criminal record, sectioned under the mental health act and just recently my 21 month old son has been put up for adoption against my will via court order due to issues relating to my disability. Yes we all know it's discrimination but the child protection teams get away with these things due to the family courts being 'best interests of the child'.
A visitor I got to know through this website was the one who got me and my son put on a child protection pre-birth plan. I now know EVERYTHING that went on because of documents that have surfaced throughout this ordeal. I am not happy with what that person has said about me. This person was constantly reporting me behind my back saying the most outrageous slanderous things. The services believed her and despite me handing them the conversation where this person threatened me before my son was born, the child protection team kept it in their threshold for a care and placement order. I have got new assessments that have now gone to appeal completely the opposite to what the courts assessments said, yet my son is still currently heading for adoption.
I admit that I was very stupid when my son was born and I have only just learned to watch what I say/type to people. I don't deserve a life sentence because that is what adoption is the equivalent too. I said something stupid which resulted in my son having tests which they turned around on me saying I had hurt him because I told an ex friend of mine that I had hurt him in an argument. These tests were invasive but as I didn't know the system I thought as they had seen that he obviously was not harmed then he wouldn't have to have tests, but they carried on anyway. I emailed the child protection team staff trying to make them see how much I didn't want adoption because that is all they were focusing on. They never even finished my Mum's viability assessment, yet ruled her out saying that she didn't see their concerns. I am still trying to stop my son's adoption. I haven't seen him since June. It never helped that at the final hearing half of my paperwork seemed to have got lost and my barrister told me to not argue my case instead backing my Mother. She spent over £10,000 on legal fees. They never gave her the appropriate legal advice. She can no longer afford to take the case to court with a solicitor on board. If anyone can be of any help or who would be willing to take the case on representing the maternal grandmother it would be helpful. The site email link is somewhere on here.
I am no longer in the position to run the website or be any part of it. I want to have a life that can't include running websites or having an online presence because that is the sacrifice I have to make to be able to stop my son's adoption and have him in my life. I also have to step down for privacy reasons. The domain name expires in May. It is not going to be renewed. If anyone wants to buy the username off of me and become the new owner of the website please get in contact with us by the end of April 2014. I only have one request for anyone who buys the site off of me. They are not allowed to mention me, refer to me or my life in any way. I will be taking legal action against anyone who deformates my character in future. I take it extremely seriously after the problems people have caused me by saying and writing stuff that isn't true. The professionals have even done it too. I will not stand for that type of behaviour from anyone anymore.
I hope that all the visitors understand why I have to take such drastic measures to be able to have a different, less stressful life. Thanks for supporting the website for the last 10 years. I appreciate all the visitors that were helpful and productive on here. It is a shame a few bad ones (one in particular) have to ruin it for everyone else. A lot has happened personally for me in the last 10 years that only makes me feel more so that it is time to move on. I was a teenager when I started A.S.S.G.O. I am now approaching my 30s. I have grown up recently. I don't see life the same now. I want more from life than running this website will ever give me. I wish to leave the label behind by no association with just Aspergers stuff. There is so much more to me than that. I am a person underneath the label. I want to be seen as who I am, not by my diagnosis. I wish you all a happy life xxx